I Recently Had Two Miscarriages — Here’s What I’m Doing About It

May 8

This might sound intense. It would have sounded intense to me not long ago. Maybe even like TMI in a public blog where strangers will read it. I get it. I got a bit tripped up about posting it last week because the last thing I want is pity. I just want to share information in case someone is in the same boat.
Whenever I heard of miscarriages—whether from friends or friends of friends—my heart would break for them. It always sounded devastating. And yes, it absolutely can be. But for reasons I’m still unpacking—maybe because I braced for the worst—it turned out to be a lot easier for me than I expected.

Now that I’m in my 40s, the reality is this: my fertility challenges likely come down to egg quality. So here’s what I’m doing to support my body and give myself the best chance possible.

1. Working with a Naturopath

I’m getting tailored support to ensure I’m meeting my nutritional needs and optimizing egg quality.

2. Frequent Acupuncture

Acupuncture helps nourish and regulate my body. It’s been a grounding and supportive practice during this time.

3. Tracking My Hormones

a. Sex Hormones:
I completed a 30-day saliva hormone test to map my hormone levels across my cycle. My Chinese medicine doctor recommended this over the Dutch test, as it provides a full-cycle picture instead of just a single-day snapshot.

b. Thyroid Function:
The thyroid plays a huge role in fertility and metabolism. I tested TSH, T3, T4, and TPO (thyroid antibodies) to rule out any autoimmune activity that could be affecting my fertility.

4. Tracking My Cycle

I use the Oura Ring to track overnight basal body temperature, synced with the Natural Cycles app. It might feel like a lot of tech for some, but I love seeing my temperature each morning—it helps me understand and track my cycle over time.

5. Fertility Supplements

Under the guidance of my naturopath and Chinese medicine doctor, I’m following a supplement protocol focused on egg and mitochondrial health:

CoQ10 (Ubiquinol) – supports mitochondrial function
PQQ – mitochondrial health
Inositol – improves egg quality
Vitamin E – supports uterine lining (days 1–14)
L-Arginine – supports uterine lining (days 1–14)
Melatonin – may support egg quantity
L-Carnitine – improves egg quality
Glutathione – protects eggs from oxidative stress. I like this brand because it is transdermal and bypasses the digestive system.
NAD Complex – supports mitochondrial and egg health
Multivitamin – based on mineral balancing, with bioavailable forms like P5P (vitamin B6). I love this brand.
Vitamin D – I use Calcifediol rather than the common cholecalciferol form, which isn’t always well-absorbed. I like this one.
Cod Liver Oil – my preferred source of omega-3s. I use this brand.
Phosphatidylcholine – supports cell membrane and liver function. This brand is my go to.

Note: I had been taking DHEA, a common fertility supplement, but stopped when it raised my testosterone levels. This is a reminder of how important it is to work with a professional.

This list may seem long—and it is—but some of these come in all-in-one formulas. When choosing supplements, I always check the form, dosage, and extra ingredients.

6. Progesterone supplement

Also worth noting: Many women over 35 are prescribed progesterone. This requires a practitioner’s guidance for proper dosing.

I am currently taking vaginal progesterone from after ovulation to my period.

7. LH Strips

I starting testing for lutenising hormone (LH) in my urine around day 11-12 to see when I will ovulate. I test in the late afternoon evening for a stronger reading. This helps me hone in on my exact ovulation time.

8. Lifestyle Changes

Clean Eating: I’ve cut out refined foods, sugar, and gluten as much as possible. I eat a diet rich in legumes, cooked veggies, fish and grass-fed and finished meat, eggs and an abundance of vegetables. I love raw dairy when I can get it, fruit for sweetness and I consume very little caffeine.
No Alcohol: I avoid it entirely to reduce inflammation and support hormonal balance.
Prioritizing Sleep: One tip I love—go outside barefoot first thing in the morning and get sunlight in your eyes. Two minutes is enough to help reset your circadian rhythm.
Stress Awareness: I’m not great at minimizing stress, but I am better at noticing it. If I have too many stress peaks in a day, I slow down the next day. I track this with my Oura Ring.
Daily Movement: I mix it up—weights, Pilates, yoga, walking, hiking, rucking, rebounding. Variety keeps it sustainable.
Castor Oil Packs: I use them a few times during the first half of my cycle to promote circulation to reproductive organs.
Seed Cycling: I eat 2 tablespoons of flax and pumpkin seeds during the first half of my cycle, and sesame and sunflower seeds during the second half.

Key Tests I’ve Done

30-Day Saliva Hormone Panel
Serum Hormone Tests
AMH (Anti-Müllerian Hormone)
Ferritin (Iron Storage)
Full Thyroid Panel (TSH, T3, T4, TPO)

Personal tips

Find a buddy going through the same as you. By a stroke of luck if you can call it that, one of my dearest friends is in the same boat as me. It has been incredible to be able to talk about it all freely with her.

Resources

📘 It Starts With the Egg by Rebecca Fett
🖥️ Baby Steps by BioHacking with Brittany — I haven’t done the course but have heard great things
🎧 Innate Fertility Podcast + Instagram — Lauren shares endless fertility tips, reminders, and insights across platforms

I share all of this not as a prescription, but as a personal story. If you’re going through something similar, please know you’re not alone. This path is emotional, physical, and deeply personal. And it’s okay to find your own way through it.

Gabriela Kesebi